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The Solution Always Lies Within Yourself

In this fast paced, consumer oriented world of ours, anyone looking for a quick easy fix of our myriad problems is going to be faced with an almost overwhelming array of solutions to choose from.

Weight loss and smoking – the two issues I deal with most of the time, are also the two most difficult issues to deal with as we want solutions which fit in with our lifestyles, do not require too much effort, and give fast results.

The smoker wants to be cigarette free without all the irritability and craving apparently associated with nicotine ‘withdrawal’.

The overweight person wants to lose as much weight as quickly as possible, while still enjoying as much of his/her ‘comfort food as is possible without breaking the ‘diet’.

In response to these demands the market place (and our inboxes) are flooded with products and pills promising, “INSTANT DRAMATIC WEIGHT LOSS!”, “LOSE 7lbs IN 7 DAYS!”, TAKE THIS PILL AND STOP SMOKING NOW!”, “STICK THIS PATCH ON AND BREAK THE FAG HABIT OF A LIFETIME,”……

The trouble with these types of products is, when you read the small print, they more often than not say something along the lines of “will only promote weight loss if used as part of a calorie controlled diet.” So that £50 pot of miracle pills will make you slim, but only if you reduce your food intake and increase your exercise output – which in its simplest terms is all you need to do to lose weight.

And for anyone thinking about using Zyban to give up smoking, Zyban is actually the antidepressant Wellbrutin repackaged and remarketed as a smoking cessation drug. The following paragraph comes from GlaxoSmithKline’s own prescribing information which is freely available on the internet:

“Although Zyban is not indicated for treatment of depression, it contains the same active ingredient as the antidepressant medications Wellbrutin.”

And the document itself starts off with a pretty stark warning:

“Serious neuropsychiatric events, including but not limited to depression, suicidal ideation, suicide attempt and completed suicide have been reported in patients taking Zyban for smoking cessation.”

On the NHS Choices website, the side effects state that more than 1 in 100 people who take Zyban may have ‘depression, thoughts of committing suicide or attempted suicide.’

Wow! That’s pretty low odds. So the choice here is pretty stark – continue smoking and risk lung cancer, or take Zyban and risk suicide!

On another website advertising the drug, it states somewhere near the bottom that bupropion (the active ingredient in Zyban/Wellbrutin) ‘does not ‘make’ you stop smoking. You still need determination to succeed, and to break the smoking habit.’

And therein the head of the nail is well and truly bashed… to break any habit, whether smoking, chocolate, nail biting, picking your nose, you need to put in the effort, you need determination, you need self discipline. The minute you label any compulsive habit as an addiction and start looking for a quick fix pill, you are greatly reducing your belief in yourself to break what is really just a silly habit that for various reasons unknown to you (but in most cases known to me!) you are clinging to.

Even hypnotherapy will not work in the long term if you do not believe yourself that you can do it. Which is why, when I am working with people, I am spending more and more time concentrating on the reasons why they cannot break their habits, and giving them the psychological skills and strengths to break the habits themselves.

In other words, you develop resilience, tolerance, empowerment, you break negative thinking patterns and limiting belief systems – all skills which will help you to not only achieve your immediate goal of losing weight/stopping smoking, but more widely will also help you to truly thrive in your life.

I’m feeling a little blue today

‘Feeling depressed’ can cover a wide spectrum of emotions, from the ‘I’m feeling a little blue today’ misery on a cold, grey wet morning, through to the gaping black hole that  looms ever larger in our lives when we’re feeling particularly low.

There are many things which may have triggered off these feelings in the first place, with time and circumstances adding to the overall sense of despair – getting over the loss of a loved one, divorce/splitting from a long term partner, difficult events during childhood, job and money worries, family tragedies, dealing with the aftermath of a traumatic event, the baby blues – modern life is fraught with events which appear to be designed to trip us up along the way.

Yet how is it that one person can overcome the death of a loved one (for example) and still continue a happy and fulfilled existence, whereby the same severity of an event can completely floor someone else? How can one person who has had a rough and abusive childhood, grow into a strong, vibrant and hugely capable person, while another succumbs continually to feelings of anxiety, stress, loss of control?

Or maybe you just do not know where these anxieties are coming from. Maybe you have lived with them for so long now that they almost seem ‘normal’ to you.

Admitting that you are feeling anxious and low is a big step. For some it is like admitting defeat, that you are finally acknowledging that life is getting on top of you and you are not coping.

Seeing your doctor is an obvious and important first step to dealing with your issues.  We will assume for the purposes of this article that your doctor will have ruled out any physical reasons for your depressed feelings. We may also add here that if you are already undergoing any medical treatment for a particular condition, your depressed and low feelings, may be related to your treatment, but may just as equally be triggered by other reasons, rather than the treatment and /or medication itself.

So, you are feeling depressed, low, unhappy and negative. But to make things worse, you are feeling powerless to do anything about it. The more you think about it, the more depressed you feel about it, and the vicious circle keeps spinning.

The Didim Hypnotherapy Clinic practices two very specific, very successful programmes which help to alleviate the symptoms and causes of depression, and open up a much brighter future for the sufferer.    

Your low and anxious feelings may have no graspable root or cause. You may just have this constant low level, but ever present, feeling of anxiety that hovers constantly just underneath the surface of your consciousness. You have never been able to pin it down to anything, and possibly have just written it off as part of your personality. You can imagine it like a jellyfish, with long tentacles disappearing into the darkness of your subconscious. You know it starts somewhere down there, it just looks too frightening to go there!

Pure Hypno-Analysis (PHA) is one of the world’s most effective, and quick, forms of analytical therapy with some outstanding results. It creates a safe, trusting and confidential environment where the natural therapeutic process can work, allowing the client to slowly bring all the bottled-up emotions to the surface. It doesn’t rely on therapist insight, ‘fishing’ techniques, regression techniques or any other ‘invasive’ techniques in order to work effectively. Create the right relationship, show the client how to utilise the natural therapeutic process, and in eight or so sessions the bottled-up emotions can be resolved.

The key thing to remember is that you are not looking for something specific, you are not poking around looking for incidents in your past that may have contributed to your overall feelings of anxiety. You are in fact very relaxed in a hypnotic state and simply letting your subconscious do all the work for you. The journey will undoubtedly be emotional (that is after all what is causing the anxieties in the first place), but will also be therapeutic and you will finish the course with a feeling of lightness and relief.

If, however, you feel that your anxieties can be pinpointed to a specific incident, that they are a culmination of a series of events that have brought you down, or simply that you are a bit melancholic by nature and that you do feel that you allow life to get the better of you too often, then you can only benefit by undergoing Rob Kelly’s Thrive programme.

The Thrive programme is NOT hypnotherapy, is NOT therapy, is NOT counselling, but has been created as a training programme. It is designed for people who want to overcome anything which is holding them back in life. Whether it is fears and phobias, low self-esteem, stress and anxiety, depression, anger, illness, sports performance, weight, smoking, alcohol or any other issues that are preventing you from moving on with life, and being happy and successful. In fact any situation in which stress and disordered thinking are making things worse.    

So if you are feeling low spirited, depressed, blue, totally powerless about your ability to be happy and productive and healthy, the Thrive  programme concentrates on building the three core psychological strengths we use to fight any negative belief or symptom:

  • Putting you back in control
  • Building your self-esteem
  • Reducing your social anxiety

Once you have built up these three core strengths, you will feel much more able to deal with your problems. You will be able to manage your self-esteem, learning how to top it up and keep it at a high level. By doing this you will also be lowering your social anxiety to a level where it doesn’t bother you anymore.

The programme then goes on to illustrate how you can take control of your thinking processes, banishing negative thoughts, and being more capable of dealing with difficult and stressful situations.

So make 2013 the year that you finally take control of your life and really start to Thrive!